In Chapter 9 of our book Catch Fire; How to Ignite Your Own Economy we cover the 4 steps to creating LASTING change in your Financial Life! These steps can apply to ANY goal you have in any part of your life as well!
GET MOTIVATED
“Those who restrain Desire, do so because theirs is weak enough to be restrained “ -William Blake
As Doug and I were recently sitting on the private patio of our sea villa in Pangkor Laut Resort in Malaysia I said I felt blessed and grateful. He said why?
I didn’t hesitate;
“Most people never get to live the life they dream about.” To that he replied, “There are reasons for that”
…Yes that is true…but my thoughts went to WHY? What are those reasons…? Why is it people don’t live out what is in their heart?
Part 1 of this series covers one of main reasons... If you have read it, you know WHY... people never get Irritated enough to make necessary CHANGES in their lives.
Wealth & Freedom cannot come about without CHANGE, it is impossible.
The OTHER reason that many people do not create the Financial Freedom they want is because they do not let themselves feel the DESIRE of what they want or even allow themselves to enjoy the current luxuries of life. Life is full of amazing moments, places, foods, people and experiences. They also don't create a PLAN to get there.
If you don't know where you are going you will get NOWHERE...
STEP TWO to LASTING change is about GETTING MOTIVATED, the OPPOSITE of step one in that you are harnessing the positive power of your hearts visions, desires and dreams vs. harnessing the power of the Pain of where you are not. It is a FAR more powerful step AFTER you have felt the Pain of the "stick".
Take a moment, grab a pen & paper and answer these questions…
What do you desire?
What do you long for?
Crave?
Hope for?
If you had 6 figures of ongoing/residual income coming in, what would you have in your life, you currently don’t have?
What would you do, who would you be?
Do you let yourself feel the joy of the possibilities that your life has?
Once you know what you want for your life, now it is time to put it into a tangible and realistic TARGET statement.
In our book Catch Fire: How To Ignite Your Own Economy we have a couple chapters dedicated to helping you create some Targets as well as some real “How To’s and What to do’s” to help you create the FOUNDATION of your Financial Freedom.
Far too much to fit in a Blog!
"The only difference between your dreams and making them a reality is a plan of action and sticking to it". Melanie Nelson
Monday, October 18, 2010
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
STEP 1 to LASTING Change - Part 1 of 4
In celebration of our book Catch Fire: How to Ignite your Own Economy being finished and delivered I will do a 4 part Blog briefly covering each of the ‘steps to change’ that you find in Chapter 9 of the book.
If you have not yet purchased your own COPY of the book do so now at www.catchfirebook.com For a LIMITED time you will get an autographed copy if you buy the SOFT COVER!
Part 1; Irritation: Popping Pills
STEP ONE; Get IRRITATED!
North America isn’t just addicted to their prescriptions. They take all kinds of other pills you cannot see but rather hear. They sound like…
Excuses, Rationalizations and Justifications.
These are pain pills people take so not to feel the pain or irritation of their current situation. Its how the mind keeps you “comfortable” with where you are at rather then think of and take action towards where you could be.
EXAMPLES of Excuses: "I don’t have enough time, money or support. I am too old, young, fat, stupid, I need a _____ for that and I don’t have it etc… "
EXAMPLES of Rationalizations: "When the kids get older… when my spouse…I am not a ‘morning person’, I could never do that, it’s just not my personality, I’ll start in the fall... it’s just bad timing, etc…"
EXAMPLES of Justifications: "We really do have so much to be grateful for, I am happy where I am at, we are fine, It’s really not that important to me, I guess it’s not meant to be, My life is just so complicated right now, I have so much on my plate, All you need is love etc…"
Any of these sound familiar?? So which of these are your fall back position when things are tough or when you are faced with an opportunity to change your life?
Again the mind uses these to numb the pain of NOT having what it is you truly desire. Your heart has ideas and dreams, and they were put there for a reason. Each one of us has something special to do in this life! You HAD dreams and goals…where are they now? You buried them alive with your pain pills!
The truth is most people live comfortably miserable. They pop these pills all day long in every conversation they have with their friends, family and co-workers to ensure they don’t feel the disappointment, shame, anger or pain of their perceived failure. Since everyone around you is typically doing the same thing it makes it FAR easier to just keep doing it. This creates a RUT many never get out of.
Now I am not saying not to be grateful for what you have, just don’t use it as justification for not living your full purpose.
The more time and money you have the larger the impact you can have in your life and the lives of others. Marianne Williams said it best when she said; “Playing small does not serve you or the world”
The fact is most people will NOT take consistent lasting action towards their goals until they have hit what I call their “bottom line”. Everyone has one, but most never hit it for all the pain pills they are popping, literally and metaphorically.
The MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION is: when is it going to get tough enough for you to say to your self; “This is IT!! I am done living this way!”?
When it does happen, people shift in an instant and their lives will forever be changed. Many people have this after a near death experience. An accident, a heart attack etc… I am thankful that was not my bottom line. My story isn’t that exciting, but it was painful enough for me to make the necessary changes to get out!
Impatient to create your freedom? For a week, a month or whatever you can stand STOP taking the pain pills and actually FEEL the pain of your situation. Allow yourself to get REALLY IRRITATED with your reality! Is it the reality of living paycheck to paycheck? Escalating debt, kids college fund dwindled away to pay bills? A medical emergency sucks you dry, a job loss, not being able to fulfill your hearts desires and dreams? Whatever it is about your current situation you don’t like get to the point where you CANNOT STAND it ANYMORE! Then see what happens!
"When I clearly see where I should be and what I lack, and feel the pain of not being there, I merit the gift of my next level and growth". - Michael Berg
If you have not yet purchased your own COPY of the book do so now at www.catchfirebook.com For a LIMITED time you will get an autographed copy if you buy the SOFT COVER!
Part 1; Irritation: Popping Pills
STEP ONE; Get IRRITATED!
North America isn’t just addicted to their prescriptions. They take all kinds of other pills you cannot see but rather hear. They sound like…
Excuses, Rationalizations and Justifications.
These are pain pills people take so not to feel the pain or irritation of their current situation. Its how the mind keeps you “comfortable” with where you are at rather then think of and take action towards where you could be.
EXAMPLES of Excuses: "I don’t have enough time, money or support. I am too old, young, fat, stupid, I need a _____ for that and I don’t have it etc… "
EXAMPLES of Rationalizations: "When the kids get older… when my spouse…I am not a ‘morning person’, I could never do that, it’s just not my personality, I’ll start in the fall... it’s just bad timing, etc…"
EXAMPLES of Justifications: "We really do have so much to be grateful for, I am happy where I am at, we are fine, It’s really not that important to me, I guess it’s not meant to be, My life is just so complicated right now, I have so much on my plate, All you need is love etc…"
Any of these sound familiar?? So which of these are your fall back position when things are tough or when you are faced with an opportunity to change your life?
Again the mind uses these to numb the pain of NOT having what it is you truly desire. Your heart has ideas and dreams, and they were put there for a reason. Each one of us has something special to do in this life! You HAD dreams and goals…where are they now? You buried them alive with your pain pills!
The truth is most people live comfortably miserable. They pop these pills all day long in every conversation they have with their friends, family and co-workers to ensure they don’t feel the disappointment, shame, anger or pain of their perceived failure. Since everyone around you is typically doing the same thing it makes it FAR easier to just keep doing it. This creates a RUT many never get out of.
Now I am not saying not to be grateful for what you have, just don’t use it as justification for not living your full purpose.
The more time and money you have the larger the impact you can have in your life and the lives of others. Marianne Williams said it best when she said; “Playing small does not serve you or the world”
The fact is most people will NOT take consistent lasting action towards their goals until they have hit what I call their “bottom line”. Everyone has one, but most never hit it for all the pain pills they are popping, literally and metaphorically.
The MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION is: when is it going to get tough enough for you to say to your self; “This is IT!! I am done living this way!”?
When it does happen, people shift in an instant and their lives will forever be changed. Many people have this after a near death experience. An accident, a heart attack etc… I am thankful that was not my bottom line. My story isn’t that exciting, but it was painful enough for me to make the necessary changes to get out!
Impatient to create your freedom? For a week, a month or whatever you can stand STOP taking the pain pills and actually FEEL the pain of your situation. Allow yourself to get REALLY IRRITATED with your reality! Is it the reality of living paycheck to paycheck? Escalating debt, kids college fund dwindled away to pay bills? A medical emergency sucks you dry, a job loss, not being able to fulfill your hearts desires and dreams? Whatever it is about your current situation you don’t like get to the point where you CANNOT STAND it ANYMORE! Then see what happens!
"When I clearly see where I should be and what I lack, and feel the pain of not being there, I merit the gift of my next level and growth". - Michael Berg
Monday, October 4, 2010
Playgrounds and Playmates
A little exercise for you… grab a piece of paper and pen… go ahead… I will wait!
Now List the 5 people you spend the most TIME with...
Now along side their name put their estimated annual income... Yes you know it, or at least have a fairly good idea…These are the top 5 people you give your time and energy to so don’t pretend you don’t have a REALLY good idea what they make.
Now ADD all of the Incomes together for a Grand Total...
Now divide it by 5. This will give you the AVERAGE...
Take a moment and really do this…I’ll wait…
OK, so what is it?
Does this number look familiar? It should!
Statistics show that your income will be the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with! Surprising? Shouldn't be, it's natural law.
Now if you have burning desire to better your financial situation you may need to look at expanding your playgrounds and playmates. Unless those folks are like minded and looking to broaden their horizons and create Financial freedom as well…then count yourself lucky…however if they are NOT, they may be holding you back unintentionally. There is NO judgment here; it is merely a matter of what is MOST important to you.
So what is most important to you? Staying the same, clinging to what you know and what is comfortable or venturing out to unknown territory and making some new friends. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying dump your friends I am merely saying go and make some NEW ones! Build a new network of people with similar goals or even better, people that have DONE WHAT YOU WANT TO DO! Folks the BEST way to reach your financial goals is to hang out with people who have what you want and ask them what THEY did! Then do the SAME!
Some Sound Advice: It is VITALLY important that you ARE BEING someone that a successful person would WANT to spend time with.
The VAST majority of people that Doug and I know that are INCREDIBLY wealthy are SELF MADE. Now that does not mean they did not have support, mentors or instruction. But their common attitude was; “I am going to do this no matter what. I am going to create my own destiny and nothing will stop me”. This type of attitude and more importantly the corresponding action attracts the right people to you. You won’t need to find them, THEY will find YOU!
BACK TO YOUR PLAYGROUND:
Unfortunately the peeps in your current playground like you the way you are because it is familiar but inevitably when you begin to grow and change you WILL hit some resistance from them. Although they mean well, they simply want to “keep you” where you are at. When you truly commit to creating more success in your life you will not have to force building a new playground, it happens almost naturally. If you are reading this blog you have a larger purpose. The world is waiting for you. You have bigger fish to fry, people to help, lives to change and a mark to make!
Get to it!
Now List the 5 people you spend the most TIME with...
Now along side their name put their estimated annual income... Yes you know it, or at least have a fairly good idea…These are the top 5 people you give your time and energy to so don’t pretend you don’t have a REALLY good idea what they make.
Now ADD all of the Incomes together for a Grand Total...
Now divide it by 5. This will give you the AVERAGE...
Take a moment and really do this…I’ll wait…
OK, so what is it?
Does this number look familiar? It should!
Statistics show that your income will be the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with! Surprising? Shouldn't be, it's natural law.
Now if you have burning desire to better your financial situation you may need to look at expanding your playgrounds and playmates. Unless those folks are like minded and looking to broaden their horizons and create Financial freedom as well…then count yourself lucky…however if they are NOT, they may be holding you back unintentionally. There is NO judgment here; it is merely a matter of what is MOST important to you.
So what is most important to you? Staying the same, clinging to what you know and what is comfortable or venturing out to unknown territory and making some new friends. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying dump your friends I am merely saying go and make some NEW ones! Build a new network of people with similar goals or even better, people that have DONE WHAT YOU WANT TO DO! Folks the BEST way to reach your financial goals is to hang out with people who have what you want and ask them what THEY did! Then do the SAME!
Some Sound Advice: It is VITALLY important that you ARE BEING someone that a successful person would WANT to spend time with.
The VAST majority of people that Doug and I know that are INCREDIBLY wealthy are SELF MADE. Now that does not mean they did not have support, mentors or instruction. But their common attitude was; “I am going to do this no matter what. I am going to create my own destiny and nothing will stop me”. This type of attitude and more importantly the corresponding action attracts the right people to you. You won’t need to find them, THEY will find YOU!
BACK TO YOUR PLAYGROUND:
Unfortunately the peeps in your current playground like you the way you are because it is familiar but inevitably when you begin to grow and change you WILL hit some resistance from them. Although they mean well, they simply want to “keep you” where you are at. When you truly commit to creating more success in your life you will not have to force building a new playground, it happens almost naturally. If you are reading this blog you have a larger purpose. The world is waiting for you. You have bigger fish to fry, people to help, lives to change and a mark to make!
Get to it!
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Who are you listening to??
Greetings everyone!
A recent post I saw on Facebook has inspired today's Blog… This recent post reminded me of a rule I live by that has served me VERY well and has been a BIG part of why I have been so successful.
My RULE: “I do not take advice from those that are not qualified to give it”.
Let me explain…Everyone has opinions, opinions are great and fine and we are all entitled to share our opinions…it’s a free world!
When it comes to advice that will affect my life, I only seek out or listen to advice from those that walk the talk and have experience in their field; a PROVEN track record if you will. I only take health advice from those that are healthier than me; I only take business or marketing advice from those more successful than me. What often surprises me is how LITTLE Doug and I are asked “how did you do it?” How do you get to live the lifestyle you live?”
Maybe I am surprised because I was and am the person who is always asking those questions. When I was beginning my journey to Financial Freedom I purposely went out to educate and get advice from people that had what I wanted.
I remember very clearly the first multi-millionaire I ever met. His name was Roger. Roger was down to earth, sincere and consistent. He became an unknowing mentor of mine. Every week I saw Roger, I loved asking him what he was up to and what he thought of current events, business and investing. I basically studied him. He didn’t know it but Roger helped me more than he can even know.
For several years after I invested my time and money in educating myself in business, marketing and finances. And no, not from Professors at a University with a job earning them a $60-90,000/yr income, but from those who had made millions through business, marketing and financial planning.
Another simple example; when I lived in Dallas I was looking for a local Chiropractor I could start seeing regularly. I found one close by so I booked an appointment. One look at the doctor you could see he was extremely unhealthy. I canceled my appointment and walked out. How can I expect someone to give me health advice that does not follow their own?? To me it is a matter of INTEGRITY!
Unfortunately most people take money advice from their broke family and friends. Most people take life advice from those who are comfortably miserable and most take health advice from the 30 sec commercial about the newest fat burning pill promising amazing results.
SO THE MILLION DOLLAR question is… who are you listening to? Who or what are you following? Who is giving you advice? What type of education are you getting? Is it REALLY heading you in the direction of your goals?
Dougism: “You WILL BE EDUCATED…the question is by whom?”
On the other side of the coin…If you are looking to create your own financial freedom by pronouncing yourself to be some sort of expert and want to be taken seriously you better have the qualifications to do so. In upcoming Blog I will talk about the ONE crucial thing YOUR NEED in order to do just this successfully.
Personally, qualifications doesn’t necessarily mean a degree or piece of paper to me, I am more concerned in the TANGIBLE results someone has created consistently. The only way to be a genuine success is to first help yourself, change YOUR LIFE, and THEN teach others to do what you have done! There is also the refreshing concept of just being honest and asking people to join you on the JOURNEY to creating your desired results!
Till next time!
A recent post I saw on Facebook has inspired today's Blog… This recent post reminded me of a rule I live by that has served me VERY well and has been a BIG part of why I have been so successful.
My RULE: “I do not take advice from those that are not qualified to give it”.
Let me explain…Everyone has opinions, opinions are great and fine and we are all entitled to share our opinions…it’s a free world!
When it comes to advice that will affect my life, I only seek out or listen to advice from those that walk the talk and have experience in their field; a PROVEN track record if you will. I only take health advice from those that are healthier than me; I only take business or marketing advice from those more successful than me. What often surprises me is how LITTLE Doug and I are asked “how did you do it?” How do you get to live the lifestyle you live?”
Maybe I am surprised because I was and am the person who is always asking those questions. When I was beginning my journey to Financial Freedom I purposely went out to educate and get advice from people that had what I wanted.
I remember very clearly the first multi-millionaire I ever met. His name was Roger. Roger was down to earth, sincere and consistent. He became an unknowing mentor of mine. Every week I saw Roger, I loved asking him what he was up to and what he thought of current events, business and investing. I basically studied him. He didn’t know it but Roger helped me more than he can even know.
For several years after I invested my time and money in educating myself in business, marketing and finances. And no, not from Professors at a University with a job earning them a $60-90,000/yr income, but from those who had made millions through business, marketing and financial planning.
Another simple example; when I lived in Dallas I was looking for a local Chiropractor I could start seeing regularly. I found one close by so I booked an appointment. One look at the doctor you could see he was extremely unhealthy. I canceled my appointment and walked out. How can I expect someone to give me health advice that does not follow their own?? To me it is a matter of INTEGRITY!
Unfortunately most people take money advice from their broke family and friends. Most people take life advice from those who are comfortably miserable and most take health advice from the 30 sec commercial about the newest fat burning pill promising amazing results.
SO THE MILLION DOLLAR question is… who are you listening to? Who or what are you following? Who is giving you advice? What type of education are you getting? Is it REALLY heading you in the direction of your goals?
Dougism: “You WILL BE EDUCATED…the question is by whom?”
On the other side of the coin…If you are looking to create your own financial freedom by pronouncing yourself to be some sort of expert and want to be taken seriously you better have the qualifications to do so. In upcoming Blog I will talk about the ONE crucial thing YOUR NEED in order to do just this successfully.
Personally, qualifications doesn’t necessarily mean a degree or piece of paper to me, I am more concerned in the TANGIBLE results someone has created consistently. The only way to be a genuine success is to first help yourself, change YOUR LIFE, and THEN teach others to do what you have done! There is also the refreshing concept of just being honest and asking people to join you on the JOURNEY to creating your desired results!
Till next time!
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
PASSION or PURPOSE?
How many of you have heard people say that “you can make millions doing what you love”…
”follow your heart and it will all work out”…
Sounds great…but Doug and I are contrarians when it comes to this populous belief.
We call BS on this one! We are known for being REALISTS. There are a couple reasons for this and hear us out...
1. For most people doing what they LOVE does not monetize well, Both from a business standpoint and from a spiritual standpoint. Let me explain; often it is best that what you love to do stays an ‘Advocation’ versus a Vocation. Meaning that what we want to GIVE to this world doesn’t often translate into a solid profitable business plan, and to force it to be so just creates struggle. And if it can be a viable business, how many of you have started a business or a job you love and after a few years you begin to dread it then eventually hate it? It happened to me and it sucks! Our philosophy is get the ‘Money thing’ out of the way, go out and create Financial Freedom and THEN go give your gift to the world for FREE because you can now FUND it yourself!
2. The truth is not everyone is meant to be an entrepreneur. Not everyone has the skills or traits to take a start up idea and end up one day in Forbes magazine. There are only a handful of people in the world that have done this. Oprah, Donald Trump, Warren Buffet, JR Ridinger, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates are a few of the few. If this is the case, as it was for me, the BEST thing to do to create your freedom is to tap into and leverage an existing and PROVEN system! No need to re-invent the wheel! You can still be crazy successful if your not the next Steve Jobs.
3. The ways in which to create wealth and freedom aren’t always FUN or give you warm fuzzies! They are just systems; Investing systems, business systems etc… Some of you would go through a two year root canal if it meant you would be Financially Free for the rest of your life….BUT many of you quit at the first bump in the road and say things like…”oh, guess it wasn’t meant to be”, or “it’s not my passion”, “it’s not a fit (anymore)”, “I am going to AB and C instead”.
I used to say these types of things about Real Estate. To me Real Estate was the most boring thing to research let alone there were SO many details to buying and selling a home. It just seemed like I couldn’t get excited about it. What I learned when I finally bought my first positive cash flow property is that I got real excited about the Passive Income coming in each month.
It is in our experience that the journey to Financial Freedom means doing things you perceive NOW to be boring, not your personality type, not your skill set or not your “passion”. I will actually go as far as to guarantee it!
Most are unwilling to do things they find boring, uncomfortable. The list of excuses people use goes on and on. As someone who helps people reach Financial Freedom I have heard the best and worst excuses and stories around why people QUIT their journey towards freedom. Then they go back to doing what they were doing with some sort of twist hoping for new results. My heart goes out to them.
But, this is EXACTLY what we are talking about when we say;
“The world is not separated by ‘HAVES and HAVE NOT’s’ but rather ‘WILL and WILL NOT’s’”...And you have probably heard Doug and I say that before...It is a common theme in what we teach because it is the most fundamental difference between successful people and unsuccessful people.
So no matter what you think you don’t like or is not part of your passion…aka technology, talking to people, internet, sales, real estate, etc… remember this…“Successful people are simply WILLING to do what most choose not to do”
Do what you NEED to do versus what you WANT to do is a practice in discipline! One that will help you achieve your dreams and even make you very wealthy!
So... how about making your PURPOSE doing what you need to do to create your freedom!
Then make your PASSION or MISSION in life as something your can GIVE to the world for free so it stays a choice and something you love!
What do you say?
”follow your heart and it will all work out”…
Sounds great…but Doug and I are contrarians when it comes to this populous belief.
We call BS on this one! We are known for being REALISTS. There are a couple reasons for this and hear us out...
1. For most people doing what they LOVE does not monetize well, Both from a business standpoint and from a spiritual standpoint. Let me explain; often it is best that what you love to do stays an ‘Advocation’ versus a Vocation. Meaning that what we want to GIVE to this world doesn’t often translate into a solid profitable business plan, and to force it to be so just creates struggle. And if it can be a viable business, how many of you have started a business or a job you love and after a few years you begin to dread it then eventually hate it? It happened to me and it sucks! Our philosophy is get the ‘Money thing’ out of the way, go out and create Financial Freedom and THEN go give your gift to the world for FREE because you can now FUND it yourself!
2. The truth is not everyone is meant to be an entrepreneur. Not everyone has the skills or traits to take a start up idea and end up one day in Forbes magazine. There are only a handful of people in the world that have done this. Oprah, Donald Trump, Warren Buffet, JR Ridinger, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates are a few of the few. If this is the case, as it was for me, the BEST thing to do to create your freedom is to tap into and leverage an existing and PROVEN system! No need to re-invent the wheel! You can still be crazy successful if your not the next Steve Jobs.
3. The ways in which to create wealth and freedom aren’t always FUN or give you warm fuzzies! They are just systems; Investing systems, business systems etc… Some of you would go through a two year root canal if it meant you would be Financially Free for the rest of your life….BUT many of you quit at the first bump in the road and say things like…”oh, guess it wasn’t meant to be”, or “it’s not my passion”, “it’s not a fit (anymore)”, “I am going to AB and C instead”.
I used to say these types of things about Real Estate. To me Real Estate was the most boring thing to research let alone there were SO many details to buying and selling a home. It just seemed like I couldn’t get excited about it. What I learned when I finally bought my first positive cash flow property is that I got real excited about the Passive Income coming in each month.
It is in our experience that the journey to Financial Freedom means doing things you perceive NOW to be boring, not your personality type, not your skill set or not your “passion”. I will actually go as far as to guarantee it!
Most are unwilling to do things they find boring, uncomfortable. The list of excuses people use goes on and on. As someone who helps people reach Financial Freedom I have heard the best and worst excuses and stories around why people QUIT their journey towards freedom. Then they go back to doing what they were doing with some sort of twist hoping for new results. My heart goes out to them.
But, this is EXACTLY what we are talking about when we say;
“The world is not separated by ‘HAVES and HAVE NOT’s’ but rather ‘WILL and WILL NOT’s’”...And you have probably heard Doug and I say that before...It is a common theme in what we teach because it is the most fundamental difference between successful people and unsuccessful people.
So no matter what you think you don’t like or is not part of your passion…aka technology, talking to people, internet, sales, real estate, etc… remember this…“Successful people are simply WILLING to do what most choose not to do”
Do what you NEED to do versus what you WANT to do is a practice in discipline! One that will help you achieve your dreams and even make you very wealthy!
So... how about making your PURPOSE doing what you need to do to create your freedom!
Then make your PASSION or MISSION in life as something your can GIVE to the world for free so it stays a choice and something you love!
What do you say?
Saturday, August 28, 2010
It's NOT ABOUT the Money!!
Many people have negative associations, beliefs and emotions wrapped around money. Today we are going to examine that and how it plays a role in your current financial picture. First I have to thank Mr. T. Harv Eker for these teachings because if it weren’t for them I wouldn’t be where I am today!
Hearing statement growing up like: “Rich people are greedy”, “We can’t afford it”, “It is more spiritually acceptable to be poor”, “money doesn’t grow on trees”, is part of the reason many people feel negatively about money.
Did your parents fight over money? Was it bad form to even TALK about money? Was money a form of CONTROL in your household? Was their jealousy and when it came to rich people? All of these can also create negative associations with money.
Did you have a particular experience where money was involved that had an impact on you? Maybe someone stole money from you? Maybe you lost all your money…or whatever the circumstance did it cause you pain?
So why is this important? What you saw, heard and felt growing up about money has an impact on your current & future financial life. Negative beliefs about money can prevent people from making or keeping money. If you are looking to create Financial Freedom, stability and comfort, detaching from those negative beliefs and emotions is key if you want to move forward financially.
Remembering money is simply a tool, helps to put it in perspective. Money simply has replaced the old bartering system of trading your goat for three bags of Flour. It is the current system of giving and getting what you want and need! Taking the negative emotion out of it is essential if you want to move forward.
IT'S NOT YOU; IT'S ME!
Ever heard this one….”Money Changes people”…let me be CRYSTAL CLEAR…
Money DOES NOT CHANGE PEOPLE!!!!
It merely brings out more of who they are. So if you are generous and kind, you will be MORE generous and kind. If you are a jerk, you will be more of a jerk.
Money cannot change you and proof of this is Lottery Winners.
Let's be honest here; the majority of folks that buy Lottery Tickets are on a different socio-economic level that those that don’t. Many of them have meager salaries or jobs or none at all and are usually in debt. Beliefs, habits and circumstances have created that. Statistics show that Lottery winners are 5 x more likely to file for Bankruptcy! Why, because they have NOT changed, they still have the same habits and beliefs around money they did when they didn’t have any. If you cannot handle money, you won’t KEEP it let alone GROW it!!
It’s YOU, not the money.
Examine your beliefs, emotions and habits around money before blaming the money for your lack of relationship with it.
It is an inanimate object YOU bring the baggage!
Just like people, money does not like to hang around where it is not respected or wanted. If you have negative emotions or beliefs around money than you will NEVER have more money in your life.
Often people believe the Pursuit of money is impure or wrong. But anyone who has made a lot of money knows it’s NOT about the money, it is what money CAN DO for you; it is a tool to get us what we want out of life. Why is getting what you want out of life wrong? Why is struggle and hardship so appealing to you?
What do you want out of your life? What can permanent ongoing income DO for you? Give you Time!! Time to do what? Spend with Family? Help a worthy cause? Travel the world?
Freedom was my big thing. The freedom to do what I want when I want, but first I had to have the discipline to do the mundane, ordinary and necessary consistently in order to have that freedom. I had to MAKE time to do the things that would eventually land me where I wanted to be.
My worthy cause you ask? Children, Animals, the Planet and YOU.
Yes, YOU!
More specifically helping YOU get where you want to be financially so you can have the time to do the things you were meant to do here on this planet!
This blog is just one of the many ways our Catch Fire U project does this! I hope you are enjoying it but more importantly getting something out of it that you can apply to your life that will create change for you!
Till next time!
Hearing statement growing up like: “Rich people are greedy”, “We can’t afford it”, “It is more spiritually acceptable to be poor”, “money doesn’t grow on trees”, is part of the reason many people feel negatively about money.
Did your parents fight over money? Was it bad form to even TALK about money? Was money a form of CONTROL in your household? Was their jealousy and when it came to rich people? All of these can also create negative associations with money.
Did you have a particular experience where money was involved that had an impact on you? Maybe someone stole money from you? Maybe you lost all your money…or whatever the circumstance did it cause you pain?
So why is this important? What you saw, heard and felt growing up about money has an impact on your current & future financial life. Negative beliefs about money can prevent people from making or keeping money. If you are looking to create Financial Freedom, stability and comfort, detaching from those negative beliefs and emotions is key if you want to move forward financially.
Remembering money is simply a tool, helps to put it in perspective. Money simply has replaced the old bartering system of trading your goat for three bags of Flour. It is the current system of giving and getting what you want and need! Taking the negative emotion out of it is essential if you want to move forward.
IT'S NOT YOU; IT'S ME!
Ever heard this one….”Money Changes people”…let me be CRYSTAL CLEAR…
Money DOES NOT CHANGE PEOPLE!!!!
It merely brings out more of who they are. So if you are generous and kind, you will be MORE generous and kind. If you are a jerk, you will be more of a jerk.
Money cannot change you and proof of this is Lottery Winners.
Let's be honest here; the majority of folks that buy Lottery Tickets are on a different socio-economic level that those that don’t. Many of them have meager salaries or jobs or none at all and are usually in debt. Beliefs, habits and circumstances have created that. Statistics show that Lottery winners are 5 x more likely to file for Bankruptcy! Why, because they have NOT changed, they still have the same habits and beliefs around money they did when they didn’t have any. If you cannot handle money, you won’t KEEP it let alone GROW it!!
It’s YOU, not the money.
Examine your beliefs, emotions and habits around money before blaming the money for your lack of relationship with it.
It is an inanimate object YOU bring the baggage!
Just like people, money does not like to hang around where it is not respected or wanted. If you have negative emotions or beliefs around money than you will NEVER have more money in your life.
Often people believe the Pursuit of money is impure or wrong. But anyone who has made a lot of money knows it’s NOT about the money, it is what money CAN DO for you; it is a tool to get us what we want out of life. Why is getting what you want out of life wrong? Why is struggle and hardship so appealing to you?
What do you want out of your life? What can permanent ongoing income DO for you? Give you Time!! Time to do what? Spend with Family? Help a worthy cause? Travel the world?
Freedom was my big thing. The freedom to do what I want when I want, but first I had to have the discipline to do the mundane, ordinary and necessary consistently in order to have that freedom. I had to MAKE time to do the things that would eventually land me where I wanted to be.
My worthy cause you ask? Children, Animals, the Planet and YOU.
Yes, YOU!
More specifically helping YOU get where you want to be financially so you can have the time to do the things you were meant to do here on this planet!
This blog is just one of the many ways our Catch Fire U project does this! I hope you are enjoying it but more importantly getting something out of it that you can apply to your life that will create change for you!
Till next time!
Monday, August 16, 2010
Part 4: Your BIGGEST obstacle is...
Today’s post is the FINAL Installment of the 4 part series on the Common Obstacles you will encounter on your journey to Financial Freedom!
Drum roll please…
YOU are your biggest obstacle.
There is NOTHING, no circumstances, no tragedy; no story that someone else does not share that has “made it”. There are no EXCUSES, they were taken away when someone who had the same excuses overcame them and achieved their goal.
You MUST overcome your ego, your un-supportive beliefs, your fears, your excuses, and stories if you are ever to achieve true lasting freedom.
The physical obstacles of time, money and life’s circumstances are just an opportunity for you to become more tenacious, more diligent, more dedicated, more passionate, more determined, more of the person that deserves wealth and freedom.
Yup I said ‘deserves’!
When your child does not do their chores, do they deserve their allowance?
When you do not do your job at work do you deserve that job?
When you do not treat your partner with love and respect do you deserve that relationship?
The same goes for financial Freedom!
You can WANT it till the cows come home and spoon runs away with the fork, but that doesn’t mean you deserve it.
What are DOING about it!??
Don’t misunderstand me; each one of us is born and dies WORTHY of all we want in life! The question is who are you being to allow you to experience that worthiness?
Mastering YOURSELF is one of the greatest journey’s our spirits can embark on.
Here are some great ‘Mastery questions’ from a GOAL SETTING exercise I created and have included them here FOR FREE!
When working towards your freedom, obstacles are sure to come up. Asking yourself THESE questions will help you look inside and overcome them more quickly!
• Does this goal/intention support the person I want to become?
• What am I teaching people about me?
• What’s MOST important in this moment?
• What is the outcome/feeling/result I would like to create right now?
• What kind of a person do I desire to be?
• How do I want my children to see me?
• Do I need to be RIGHT about this?
• Am I willing let this hurt/pain go?
• What is the most integral thing to do here?
• If I were normal, I may quit right now, but I’m not, so what’s my NEXT step?
• Who do I know that could support me?
• Is there something I don’t know?
• Am I being open and coachable?
• What can I learn from this?
• How can I LEAD myself in or out of this situation?
• Am I coming from FEAR (mind) on this? If so, what is the opposite reaction?
Life is the only game that is completely lob-sided…you are the player, opponent, referee and fan! You are worthy of winning the game! You deserve to win when you overcome your inner opponent and referee!
So post these on your wall, to remind you that YOU are the captain of your ship and the CEO of your life!
The BUCK stops with YOU!
Today I will not criticize, condemn or complain.
Every decision I make is a choice between a grievance and a miracle.
I am responsible for what I see.
I choose the feelings I experience.
I set the goals that I will achieve,
And everything that seems to happen to me,
I ask for and receive as I have asked.
… A Course in Miracles
Drum roll please…
YOU are your biggest obstacle.
There is NOTHING, no circumstances, no tragedy; no story that someone else does not share that has “made it”. There are no EXCUSES, they were taken away when someone who had the same excuses overcame them and achieved their goal.
You MUST overcome your ego, your un-supportive beliefs, your fears, your excuses, and stories if you are ever to achieve true lasting freedom.
The physical obstacles of time, money and life’s circumstances are just an opportunity for you to become more tenacious, more diligent, more dedicated, more passionate, more determined, more of the person that deserves wealth and freedom.
Yup I said ‘deserves’!
When your child does not do their chores, do they deserve their allowance?
When you do not do your job at work do you deserve that job?
When you do not treat your partner with love and respect do you deserve that relationship?
The same goes for financial Freedom!
You can WANT it till the cows come home and spoon runs away with the fork, but that doesn’t mean you deserve it.
What are DOING about it!??
Don’t misunderstand me; each one of us is born and dies WORTHY of all we want in life! The question is who are you being to allow you to experience that worthiness?
Mastering YOURSELF is one of the greatest journey’s our spirits can embark on.
Here are some great ‘Mastery questions’ from a GOAL SETTING exercise I created and have included them here FOR FREE!
When working towards your freedom, obstacles are sure to come up. Asking yourself THESE questions will help you look inside and overcome them more quickly!
• Does this goal/intention support the person I want to become?
• What am I teaching people about me?
• What’s MOST important in this moment?
• What is the outcome/feeling/result I would like to create right now?
• What kind of a person do I desire to be?
• How do I want my children to see me?
• Do I need to be RIGHT about this?
• Am I willing let this hurt/pain go?
• What is the most integral thing to do here?
• If I were normal, I may quit right now, but I’m not, so what’s my NEXT step?
• Who do I know that could support me?
• Is there something I don’t know?
• Am I being open and coachable?
• What can I learn from this?
• How can I LEAD myself in or out of this situation?
• Am I coming from FEAR (mind) on this? If so, what is the opposite reaction?
Life is the only game that is completely lob-sided…you are the player, opponent, referee and fan! You are worthy of winning the game! You deserve to win when you overcome your inner opponent and referee!
So post these on your wall, to remind you that YOU are the captain of your ship and the CEO of your life!
The BUCK stops with YOU!
Today I will not criticize, condemn or complain.
Every decision I make is a choice between a grievance and a miracle.
I am responsible for what I see.
I choose the feelings I experience.
I set the goals that I will achieve,
And everything that seems to happen to me,
I ask for and receive as I have asked.
… A Course in Miracles
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